For too long, women have been told that we are terrible at being friends, that we can't help being cruel or competitive, or that we inevitably abandon each other for romantic partners. But we are rejecting those stereotypes and reclaiming the power of female friendship.

In Text Me When You Get Home, journalist Kayleen Schaefer interviews more than one hundred women about their BFFs, soulmates, girl gangs, and queens while tracing this cultural shift through the lens of pop culture. Our love for each other is reflected in Abbi and Ilana, Issa and Molly, #squadgoals, the acclaim of Girls Trip and Big Little Lies, and Galentine's Day.

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  • “[A] witty, deep memoir [that] digs into the power and the glory of female friendships ... Where to start unpacking the good news that Kayleen Schaefer broadcasts in her timely, nimble, essential memoir ... Every page of this book has something valuable to impart about the necessity of fostering female bonds and tending them with the same care we give to our relationships with family, spouses, and children.”
    — Elle
  • “Reading Text Me When You Get Home feels like experiencing its subject—the intimate, slow-burning, miraculously comfortable thrill of making and keeping a lifelong friend. Kayleen Schaefer’s affectionate and clear-sighted exploration of female friendship is as romantic as a movie and as honest as the conversation on the third day of a road trip; reading it is as delightful as walking into a bar on a weeknight to see your friend already seated and ordering your drink.”
    — Jia Tolentino, staff writer at The New Yorker
  • “I was deeply moved by this book. I cried and I laughed. I recognized myself in it. I felt raised up and also challenged. It felt like a delicious, long overdue conversation with a best friend I didn’t know I had. I will be giving this book to all my girlfriends.”
    — Lennon Parham, creator, writer and star of Best Friends Forever and Playing House
Kayleen Schaefer is a journalist and author of the bestselling Kindle Single memoir  Fade Out .

At 28, my brother was one of the most promising young filmmakers in Hollywood, having shot to success as the writer and director of "Chapter 27," starring future Oscar-winner Jared Leto as John Lennon’s killer Mark David Chapman. Then, five years later, to the surprise of those closest to him, he left it all behind—abandoning his career, his family and his life, without telling anyone where he was going. ‪

With only a vague idea of where he might be, I went looking for my kid brother, embarking on a journey that would take me all the way to Mazatlán, Mexico, to learn why he left and, in doing so, discover who I was without him.